Lost a friend

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Posted on April 23, 2016, 11 a.m. by ToolmasterOfBrainerd

Evan and I had been friends for longer than I can remember. We were neighbors at my family's cabin. We did everything together. We wrestled in the water, built a tree fort together, had friendly stick fights, went tubing, and played with power tools together, almost every day of every summer. This morning on his Mom's facebook she left a post that strongly hinted that Evan had passed away. No one knows how or exactly what yet. I'm 17 now and he was 15.

Not sure where else to turn so I thought I'd just leave this here.

alulien says... #2

Very sorry to hear this.

Clearly you and Evan had an awesome time together, those sound like some great memories. When I've lost people close to me I had to remind myself that the reason I missed them so much was because of all the amazing times we shared, that we wouldn't be able to have more good times. They live on in my memory, as I'm sure Evan will in yours. It's not the same as having your friend or family member with you still, but I believe people only "fully" pass away when there is no one left to remember them.

Stay strong brother.

April 23, 2016 11:16 a.m.

alulien says... #3

If you need to talk to someone who is removed from things, the National Grief Hotline is an excellent resource (I'm assuming you're in the US).

800-445-4808

April 23, 2016 11:19 a.m.

VampireArmy says... #4

Condolences man. Not sure what else to say.

April 23, 2016 11:25 a.m.

Everything will be fine. Just remember him for the good times you had, if nothing else.

April 23, 2016 12:47 p.m.

Murpy says... #6

That fucking sucks. I don't really know what to say, but it sounds like you guys had an awesome time together and to have someone like that in your lifetime, however briefly, is really amazing. Sorry for your loss, and I hope you misread the post.

April 23, 2016 2:54 p.m.

smackjack says... #7

Condolences.

My family situation was a bit rocky when i was little, my mom and dad got divorced when i was 3. As a result i have been "traveling" around my whole childhood. Elementary in one city, middle school in one city and high school in another. Today i live in a city not even close to any of those. To have a friend like you did sounds like something out of this world for me, and you should feel lucky to have known Evan. Bonds like that are actually pretty rare. You fulfilled his everyday and he fulfilled yours for the time you were close, and that is something that you cant take away whatever happens.

It sucks too lose someone, i know. In time it will hurt less.

April 23, 2016 2:57 p.m.

Thanks everyone. Wish I had more to say than that, but I guess not. Thanks.

April 23, 2016 3 p.m.

TheHroth says... #9

So sorry man... I hope you have lots of pictures of times together so you can cherish the memories for yesrs to come.

April 23, 2016 3:46 p.m.

Arvail says... #10

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April 23, 2016 6:07 p.m.

TMBRLZ says... #11

I feel for you Tool. Love and prayers out to you and his family.

Never take the people in your lives for granted.

This game is just a bunch of overpriced cardboard one way or another. The people in our lives who love us and allow us to love them back are the most important thing you'll ever have.

April 25, 2016 11:11 a.m.

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